Learning to Choose Purpose
Formation isn’t arrival.
It’s what you choose when power is available
and purpose costs more.
Wisdom is how you live.
Formation isn’t arrival.
It’s what you choose when power is available
and purpose costs more.
Integrity is what remains when correctness is no longer enough.
A reflection on how indifference quietly forms, how “I don’t know” becomes “I don’t care,” and why shared authorship matters more than answers.
I’ve been thinking about performance anxiety lately—not as something to fix,
but as something to listen to.
What we call awakening is awareness adapting to scale—
what we call responsibility is learning when to hold, when to guide, and when to release—
and what we call wisdom is simply how we live.
This is not a religious argument.
It’s a human one.
It’s about how we learned to live at scale,
what that cost us,
and the one human life that showed what we lost.
It’s also about how that life found me again.
There was a time I couldn’t name why my work felt heavy.
It wasn’t failure or burnout—it was the moment I realized I had been maintaining function where responsibility had quietly slipped away.
From classrooms to memory care, I’ve noticed the same pattern: memory works best when presence arrives first. Sometimes remembering isn’t effort—it’s orientation.
This morning, a song from my youth opened something I didn’t realize I’d been carrying. Welcome to the Black Parade became the doorway—through absence, grace, and return—that led me back to a place I didn’t know I’d left. Sometimes the song you’ve carried the longest is the one that finally carries you home.
Driving helped me remember something older than cars: the need for moments that hold our presence. As the world automates more of life, we face the quiet loss of the places that once returned us to ourselves.